I’m Engaged, Now What? (Part One)

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I can’t quite believe that Christmas will be here in the blink of an eye. The holiday season is definitely one of my favourite times of year, it’s just so magical and always gives me the warm fuzzies! ‘Tis also the season to put a ring on it, and I get so excited just knowing that there’ll be a flurry of proposals and engagements happening.

I’m such a romantic at heart and love a good proposal story, the mushier the better I say! But after your sweetheart has popped the question, and you’ve given an enormous “Yes!” – what happens next?

I’m sharing my top tips below on where to start with your wedding planning. So grab a cuppa, put your feet up and read on…

Vintage engagement ring in leather ring box, ethereal styled shoot by Rosy Apple Events


First things first, becoming engaged is an occasion for celebrating! Pop the Champagne, and take some time to savour the moment together. Sharing your news with friends and loved ones is a great way to build excitement. Telling your parents and close family face to face or over the phone is such a lovely moment, you’ll get to experience their full joy and they’ll appreciate you taking the time to include them personally. You may also want to announce your excitement on social media, but before you hit “share” take a moment to ensure you haven’t forgotten to notify any VIP’s first.

Show Off Your Ring

As you celebrate and share your happy news, everyone will want to sneak a peek at your engagement ring…which means all eyes will be on your hands and nails too! Now is the perfect time to book yourself in for that manicure and start showing off that sparkler to it’s full glory! Get your ring re-sized too if it needs to be, otherwise you’ll spend too much time worrying about it slipping off your finger. It’s wise to get your ring insured as well in case you do ever need to get it repaired or replaced, you’ll be devastated should anything happen to it.

Hire A Wedding Planner

You’re wedding will no doubt be the biggest (and most expensive) celebration you’ll ever host. Planning a wedding is stressful too, and when you mix in a whole heap of emotions, the planning can quickly become overwhelming. You deserve to truly enjoy and treasure the memories of your whole wedding experience, and hiring a professional wedding planner is a sure fire way to eliminate any unnecessary stress. As a full service planner, I put in an average of 200-300 hours for each of our couples at Rosy Apple Events. There is so much that goes into planning a wedding; on the front end but also behind the scenes, it definitely isn’t rocket science but it does require attributes such as patience, organisation, problem solving, creative thinking and leadership. If you know from the outset that you may be lacking some of these skills, or you’re time poor due to work/social commitments – then you seriously should consider investing in a wedding planner. An experienced and passionate wedding planner will help and guide you through the planning process, they’ll be your personal advocator and confidante, and most of all will save your sanity and free up your valuable time so you can concentrate on what really matters…building a marriage. And that is worth it’s weight in gold!

Talk Budget

When you’ve never planned such a big celebration before it can be difficult to know how much money you’ll need to spend. This is probably one of the main reasons most couples tend to avoid having those conversations about money and setting a budget. But in reality, weddings can be expensive and without a clear budget in mind the costs can quickly spiral out of control. Before you can really move forward with the wedding planning, break out that calculator and have discussions with your partner and both parents to establish how much you realistically have to work with. Decide what your own priorities are and make sure it’s all reflected in your breakdown. You’ll need to know this information before you can start researching any vendors and paying retainer fees, because ultimately almost every decision you make will be determined by your budget and your priorities. Also, please don’t rely on the “average budget breakdowns” you see in all the magazines and on wedding blogs – they are totally wrong, sorry! Your dream wedding may well exceed the average costs, and most couples are surprised when they start to realise just how much everything is. To fully understand the costs you’ll need to do a lot of research, luckily if you’ve hired a wedding planner (and of course you have) then this step will be so much easier.

Draw Up A Guest List

You don’t need to finalise your list right away, but it does make sense to have a good idea of what your overall guest count is likely to be. Begin with writing down names on your VIP list, then build from there. Choose those that you simply couldn’t be without on your special day. Decide together if you want to invite co-workers, children and plus ones. Simply put, the more guests you invite, the bigger the costs will be. Also bear in mind that your guest count will determine your choice of venue and the style of wedding. So if you have your heart set on a small, intimate dinner by candlelight but your guest list tots up to 150, then you may need to review.

Most importantly, remember to soak it all in and enjoy the first few weeks and months of your engagement. There really is no rush to start the planning process immediately.

Catch part two here in a few days! Photo above from this editorial shoot with Melissa Beattie xoxo


Dec 8

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